The Child’s Right to a Mother and Father

Ten reasons against adoption rights for homosexual couples

by Christl R. Vonholdt

• Every child has a right to a mother and father. In the structure of a homosexual "family", that right of the child is methodically and deliberately denied. This is a fundamental violation of the rights of a child. 

• A child growing up presuming that his or her parents are two women or two men is not correctly informed about its origins in both of the sexes. This will have a negative impact on the child’s development. 

• Diversity is always a greater stimulus to development than equality. The last 40 years of research have consistently shown that mothers and fathers each make a distinct and indispensible contribution to the healthy development of the child. A child in a homosexual "family" is therefore at a disadvantage from the very beginning of his/her development. 

• A child has the best conditions for the development of a safe, congruent gender identity, if it can grow up in the rich environment provided by the complimentary genders as provided by a mother and a father. In a homosexual "family" these benefits of proper development are deliberately withheld from the child. 

• If either the father or the mother are tragically lacking, such as in single parent homes, the child has the opportunity to mourn their loss and to deal with this loss constructively. If the child is taught, however, that a homosexual "family" is a complete, albeit alternative type of family, this setting prevents the child from mourning the loss of the real father or mother. The loss remains split off and this will have a destructive impact on the psychosocial development of the child. 

• There are significant differences between the lifestyles of homosexual and heterosexual couples. Statistically speaking, the promiscuity of gay men living together is much higher than in a common father-mother relationship. This has a destructive effect on the bonding needs of children. 

• The vast majority of studies alleging an equality between heterosexual and homosexual parenthood, have been found to be seriously methodologically flawed. No far-reaching conclusions can be drawn from such flawed research. 

• For women living as lesbians, it is notable that the majority do not have and do not desire to have a man / men in an intimate relationship. This has a detrimental and inhibiting effect on male identity development in boys. 

• For girls, the father is the most important measure of expectation in regards to male behaviour. Studies show: Adolescent girls who have grown up without a father, have greater proximity and distance problems to male peers and boys and more often become unintentionally pregnant. 

• If it occurs that with a full adoption, a child's birth certificate shows the names of two women or of two men, instead of one female and one male name, the child will in essence be and feel deceived by the incongruence between his knowledge of his sexual origin – from the two genders (male and female) and what his birth record states.  

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